Here's the thing, I have come to understand that sex messes up everything, even THOUGHTS of sex. So here's my story:
Each and every relationship I have had has been centered or focused around sexuality, so the question I pose is why? If I had a dollar for every time I have heard "I really want to do it to you but I'm not looking for anything serious because I just got out of a bad relationship" I grow worried. Let me say this, I have never met a woman like me and my goodness if I am not pleased with who I am then no one else will be. I am the bomb.com.
Let me list my credentials for those of you who don't know: I am a recent CUM LAUDE graduate from Winston-Salem State University with a Bachelor of Science in Music Education. In addition, I am a current entrepreneur attempting to start my own company eventually leading into me having my own Performing Arts Magnet School: FYOV (Find Your Own Voice). Also, I am an incredibly large advocate for the system of education. I am running for a senate position of Young Education Professionals Association. So, the least to say: IM ACCCOMPLISHED! Not to mention, I am a full time dorm director as well as a full time graduate student to earn my Masters of Education in Counselor Education. SN: I'm a 5' 1", pretty African American woman with pretty, wavy dark brown hair! :-)
Its time for women to take a stand and not give these little boys what they have been asking for. I currently just got out of a situation where I was the side line chick. As emotionally attached to him, you would have assumed I was the main chick and I wasn't. Every four months I would ask him "Where is this going?" and what did I get a lame excuse and DISTANCE. He said he was still trying to get through the mess with his last girlfriend (mind you she was a jumpoff and had obviously moved on). I now have come to the realization that all of these emotional ties have to do with my lack of security in myself. Who doesn't like to be cuddled with someone when its cold? Who doesn't like to have someone to text/call at important times or even when you're bored.
My question now is, will you KONTINUE to settle? Yes or No. Look, my answer is no. I may have to wait until I am 30 years old for someone to find me, but the word of God declares that "They that wait on the Lord, shall renew their strength. They shall mount on eagles wings". Then Numbers 9:8 reminds us to wait on the Lord's commandments for direction, so once again, I have come to the conclusion that whether its strength you're waiting for, a man, a new house, a new car, direction, fasting anything you need, just be patient and wait. Now, many times you all know that when I write these things, its for me and this is KOMPLETELY for me. God has been working on my patience for the past 5 years and I think now I get it. And if there are any men reading this blog, please understand that if you are 21 years old or older and you're still begging for "it" you're lame and you should start kicking rocks with absolutely NO SOCKS! Stop being a jerk and taking advantage of our beautiful women. If you know you don't want anything but sex keep it 100 and tell them. There are tons of jump-offs who willingly give those services FREE of charge. Be different if at all possible. I know it's hard for you to really have your own mind, but I promise if you try really hard it'll happen. I don't understand how yall tweet or write fb status dedicated to your mother when you can't even treat other women half as decent! Get it TOGETHA!!
I don't know about you but I'm tired of living life on the edge and tip-toeing around men that are not even for me. Now, I could stand here and go all the way off on my Christian soap box but we all have to get on the same page in the natural to superceed in the spiritual. Baby steps together! So, in this process lets Keep Konfessing to stay Kurrent! LOL!
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