Klambate Kommunity Alert!

So, as mentioned in one of my tweets (follow me, @misserica13) , I was going to blog about my recent choice to date African-American men as well as men outside of my race. There are a few reasons as to why I have chosen this, and they are as follows:

1. Black men are so afraid of anything and everything that it transfigures into pride issues. For example, the word committment: they are so scared of commitment it's not even funny. I can not tell you how many times I have heard "I'm just not ready to committ". That's some mess. You can committ to anything you want to, you're just afraid that you won't be man enough to admit that you're not perfect! That's all to it. In addition, they have all this pride of what other people will think if they're tied down. Guess what? NO ONE CARES! I think you will actually be praised for committing versus just banging and going.

2. Black men are always willing to stand in a line for anything free/cheap and easy. It's almost as if African-American men have a welfare mentality. They are not willing to work to get a woman. They do not want a woman to feel as powerful as they are so they get what's easier... another woman of another race. For example, all these doggone reality shows about athletes and entertainers who are obviously more attracted to lighter skinned women, especially Latino and Caucasian and shy away from our beautiful brown/darker brown skinned African-Americans.

Now I am not making inference that one race is better than another to date/be with but I think if we're going to open the can of the dating realm, why not open it to everyone? Well, I'll tell you, the black woman's image has been SLAUGHTERED by everyone. From the "hood-rat"/ghetto mentality to the single parenthood to the "Angry Black woman" persona and guess what? at times it's true but it's because we don't have a nation of strong black men to lead us. Society is looking at us and saying, "Well if you don't want your own, why would want them?"

Let's get biblical for a moment: When God created Adam, Adam didn't need any help. GOD saw fit to bring Eve to Adam to keep him company, which is where the word companion derives from. Genesis 2:19 begins to talk about how God put Adam to sleep to PULL OUT or BRING him a wife from his own flesh, so guess what we need back in our community, we need OUR men to build themselves strong enough that women can evolve from what they are on the inside.

Now, please, please, please, please do not assume that I am categorizing all people (black men) in the same section however if an observation is made frequently, than that is how statistics are born. There are some black men who are secure, intelligent, fun and ready to be husband material who do want black women but there are many more who are not. Now, I could sit here and complain about all the horrible things that black men are and never do anything to help improve OUR society. I think it is our responsibility to consistently build up the black man instead of breaking him down, but it is important that we state the obvious and then make moves for progression.

Anyways, long story short I have decided instead of being miserable and wait for some African-American man to treat me right, I will date men of other cultural differences. As a matter of fact, instead of me trying to correct the men, I'll worry about MY side of the world and continue to empower woman to step outside the box. It's okay to be different and it's okay to date people of a different nationality. My power to you!