Keeping Up.

So, I need to make sure I do this blog thing everyday because I am growing a bit frustrated. Here's my story, throughout my college tenure I "seriously dated" two people. The first relationship was my Sophomore year. That was a bust for several reason, but FOR ME, the MAIN reason was because it became SO PUBLIC. My Junior/Senior year I became involved with someone else. The reason for this demise was because everything was too PRIVATE. Now of these two relationships I can say that I learned a wealth of knowledge about me and my relationships with others.

1. Never get in a relationship to change anyone. By the time you hit college, most people are 17 or 18. Even though they are about to journey into new life experiences, typically people are who they are. Situations change, people do not. Unless something incredibly dramatic has happened in a person's life, they are not going to change. It is not fair to us or the other person to be attracted to half a person and not the other half. Guess what? The positive attribute may not exist if the negative ones did not. Now, I am not saying that if you notice something you don't like about a person than don't give them a chance, but we have to understand that people are who they are and it is not our mission to change everyone in the world. And who's to say that what you deem to be a better change for them, is not a better change in reality?

2. Never go into a relationship unhappy & broken. If you have thought of yourself as unhappy, bitter, broken and a mess a relationship is not the place for you to be. If you read my blog before, I have been through some situations in life that caused me to break down and have emotional issues. A huge problem I noticed was I continuously attempted to mask my problems with more relationships, which brought on more stress and frustration. I then started associating the failed relationships with a "failing" mentality when in reality I was trying to create new space in the midst of broken and shattered glass. No one can you heal you but you. You have to be ready to face what happened in your past, learn from it and go on with life.

Finally 3. Recognize seasonal and lifetime folk. This does not come immediately. There will be times where you want to put seasonal people in lifetime position and you will recognize it when everything seems to be sitting on a mountain of HAVOC! Please realize and understand that it is okay to LET GO and MOVE ON! If that person is meant to be in your life I promise they will come back. This whole breaking into facebook and twitter stalking and creating status to talk about whomever is for the birds! If the other person sees that you are obsessed over them instead of being in love with them. No cute! Get it togetha!

Now I am sure many of you (well the three of you that read my blogs) are wondering how in the world do I know all of this stuff, ummm... try been there, still there, done that! I have put myself into really uncomfortable situations because I refused to listen to my instincts and follow the will of God. I have tried to do things on my own, I wish there was a blog that helped me through the many years I have suffered, but I realize that my destiny on this earth is to endure the very worse so I can help someone become their very best! There is so much that you have to offer the world, don't rob the people of the tremendous things you can offer by going through pointless and avoidable situations. Whoever is reading this, I am sure that you have something to offer. It may not be what the person sitting next to you offers, but you have to maintain your height: stand up tall, keeping looking up and keep your standards up! Don't give it! Keep going up!

to be Kontinued...